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Just Tell Her to Stop: Family Stories of Eating Disorders

Author: Becky Henry
Price: $15.95
280 pg. paperback, January 2011 release
Infinite Hope Publishing

"When our sweet, adorable, competitive and very responsible teen-age daughter dramatically changed, I knew something was horribly wrong.  The difference in her personality was so drastic I knew it couldn’t just be teen-age hormones.  I began searching the Internet, looking for clues as to what could be going on with her.  My research led me to suspect that she might be depressed or might have bulimia, or maybe both.  I naively trusted that our pediatrician would know how to recognize both disorders so I as surprised when she told me that my daughter had neither of them.  I persevered and took her to one psychologist, then another, but they also discounted my instincts.”

              Mother of teen-ager with bulimia, and author of this book, as it appears in Introduction.

When families feel frustrated, isolated and alone, which is very common because the disease is often kept as a “family secret,” they need a helpful resource to show them that they are NOT alone…and there is help and people to talk to.The tips at the end of each family’s story are most helpful.  In Diane’s story, Chapter 16, she wrote:  1) Prepare for a marathon, not a sprint. 2) Fill yourself up so that you have reserves. 3) Learn to set clear boundaries with your child. This is essential, even when, or especially when, your child is very ill. Don’t fall into the pity trap.

No stone (or topic) was left unturned so that all aspects of a family living with a loved one were covered.  Who better to tell the stories than those living with, struggling to understand, and dealing with the day-to-day challenges that can be overwhelming, to say the least.

Table of Contents – Chapters filled with some heart-warming, some challenging, stories contributed from over 40 family interviews:

1 – An Unwilling Expert: Learning about eating disorders
2 – Parents Are a Resource
3 – Three Most Common Eating Disorders
4 – Yes, It Affects the Parent’s Marriage
5 – Men and Boys Getting Into the Game
6 – Fearlessness
7 – Twelve-Step Approach
8 – We Would Have Tried Anything
9 – Our Lives Were Lived on Three Square Feet of Linoleum
10 – Dads and Eating Disorders
11 – Choosing Joy
12 – Perfectionism
13 – Letting Go with Love
14 – Eating Disorders Do Kill
15 – Jayne and Ashley’s Mother-Daughter Story
16 – Adding Insult to Injury:  Financing Treatment
17 – Siblings Stories
18 – Grandma Betty Tells Her Story
19 – A Ten-Year-Old Boy with Anorexia
20 – Complete Recovery is Possible

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