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Just Tell Her to Stop: Family Stories of Eating Disorders 

Author: Becky Henry, CPCC (Certified Professional Co-Active Coach)
280 pg. paperback, January 2011 release
Infinite Hope Publishing

"When our sweet, adorable, competitive and very responsible teen-age daughter dramatically changed, I knew something was horribly wrong.  The difference in her personality was so drastic I knew it couldn’t just be teen-age hormones.  I began searching the Internet, looking for clues as to what could be going on with her.  My research led me to suspect that she might be depressed or might have bulimia, or maybe both.  I naively trusted that our pediatrician would know how to recognize both disorders so I as surprised when she told me that my daughter had neither of them.  I persevered and took her to one psychologist, then another, but they also discounted my instincts.”

              Mother of teen-ager with bulimia, and author of this book, as it appears in Introduction.

When families feel frustrated, isolated and alone, which is very common because the disease is often kept as a “family secret,” they need a helpful resource to show them that they are NOT alone…and there is help and people to talk to.The tips at the end of each family’s story are most helpful.  In Diane’s story, Chapter 16, she wrote:  1) Prepare for a marathon, not a sprint. 2) Fill yourself up so that you have reserves. 3) Learn to set clear boundaries with your child. This is essential, even when, or especially when, your child is very ill. Don’t fall into the pity trap.

No stone (or topic) was left unturned so that all aspects of a family living with a loved one were covered.  Who better to tell the stories than those living with, struggling to understand, and dealing with the day-to-day challenges that can be overwhelming, to say the least.

Table of Contents – Chapters filled with some heart-warming, some challenging, stories contributed from over 40 family interviews:

1 – An Unwilling Expert: Learning about eating disorders
2 – Parents Are a Resource
3 – Three Most Common Eating Disorders
4 – Yes, It Affects the Parent’s Marriage
5 – Men and Boys Getting Into the Game
6 – Fearlessness
7 – Twelve-Step Approach
8 – We Would Have Tried Anything
9 – Our Lives Were Lived on Three Square Feet of Linoleum
10 – Dads and Eating Disorders
11 – Choosing Joy
12 – Perfectionism
13 – Letting Go with Love
14 – Honoring Heather
15 – Jayne and Ashley’s Mother-Daughter Story
16 – Adding Insult to Injury:  Financing Treatment
17 – Siblings Stories
18 – Grandma Betty Tells Her Story
19 – A Ten-Year-Old Boy with Anorexia
20 – Complete Recovery is Possible

About the Author

If you wish to also have the e-book version you can order it on Amazon for $9.97 now! Colleges  and Universities, contact me about having this book be part of your health sciences curriculum. 

Book Awards

2013 - Los Angeles Book Festival - Just Tell Her to Stop won Honorable Mention in the General Non-Fiction category.

2011 Independent Publisher Book Award (IPPY) - Just Tell Her to Stop won in the National Category for Mental Health/Psychology May 23, 2011 Awards Ceremony in NYC. :

Speaking Events

  • 12-1-15  "Eating your way through the Holidays: What to look for when working with Eating Disorders" Rivermend Health Lunch and Learn, Bonefish, St. Louis Park MN
  • 11- 2015 Caregiver Retreat - Naples, FL
  • 11-27-15 "March Against ED" Sharing the Parent Experience of Long-term Eating Disorders and Advocacy.
  • 10-15-15  HOPE: Shift Your Perspective on Supporting Those with Eating Disorders and Their Families" St. Louis Co. HHS Conference, Duluth, MN (Presented with Thea Sheldon, CPCC) ?
  • 2-21-15 “The Family Experience of Eating Disorders” Eating Disorder Coalition of Iowa Conference, Des Moines, IA
  • 2-11-15 “A Former Patient and a Parent Share Perspectives on Eating Disorders” University of St. Thomas, EDAW, St. Paul, MN
  • 12-2014 - Caregiver Retreat - San Diego, CA
  • 2-1-14 “From Hopeless and Fearful, to Empowered Caregiver”, F.E.A.S.T. 3rd Annual Eating Disorders Conference in Dallas, TX 
  • May 2013 “Featured at Author evening”  At Home With Eating Disorders Conference, Brisbane, Australia
  • 10-22-12 "Preparing for Surgery. Does Weight Matter?" Twin Cities Orthopedics CEU's offered
  • 10/13/12 - Writers Rock! Workshop - Century College, St. Paul, MN - Self-Publishing Panel
  • 9/15/12 - The Loft Literary Center, Minneapolis, MN. Panel on Self-publishing and book marketing.
  • 2/23/12 - NEDAW event at The Emily Program Foundation "Art and Eating Disorders" Open Mic night.
  • 11/17/11 -  "Eating Disorders and Your Teen" Moms of Teens Group - Christ Presbyterian Church, Edina, MN
  • 11/17&18/11 -  The Lowdown on Eating Disorders From the Trenches Grand Rapids, MN Public Library 7pm & Itasca Community College12pm Both open to the public.
  • 11/3/11 -  Moderator of Q & A with Dr. James Lock, Stanford Univ. at F.E.A.S.T. Symposium, Alexandria, VA
  • 1/16/10, Minneapolis, MN” Moving the Weight Paradigm from Dread and Failure to Balance and Health" - Promoting Healthy Body Image, Eating, Fitness, and Weight, CEU Program with Kathy Kater, LICSW, Michele Gorman, MS, RD, LD, Katja Rowell, MD” 
  • 10/11&12/11 The Lowdown on Eating Disorders From the Trenches.-Timberline Knolls Treatment Center - Lemont, IL
  • 8/22/11 - Common Good Books & The Emily Program Foundation host, "Joy and Hope" - A discussion with Kathleen MacDonald of the Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) Washington, DC & Becky Henry of Hope Network" Moderated by Kitty Westin.
  • 7/12/11 - Speaker on the Family Experience - The Emily Program Foundation Recovery Night 
  • 2/13/11 -"Including Families in the Treatment of Eating Disorders-What difference does it make?" Featured Speaker - Eating Disorder Network of Maryland 5th Annual Eating Disorder Awareness Event 

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Becky Henry’s story of how she learned first-hand about eating disorders with an experience with her 14 year old daughter.

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Read ‘Testimonials’ from families I have helped and inspired as well as support from healing experts.

"Hi Becky,
Just wanted to drop you a note to thank you for all your help and support.  Your guidance and wisdom was invaluable during one of the toughest times of my life. You always listened to me and then made sure I had a goal each week to help keep myself sane through all the trials of having a child with anorexia. Your knowledge and network of information was very helpful.  I could not have gotten through it without you." ~ Toni C.

“Thank you for writing it.” I am honored to know you and am grateful for your wonderful book - which is a gift to parents.

~ Cathy Vee, Parent

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