"Becky Henry has done a great service by providing this resource for those who are enmeshed in the confusing and terrifying world of eating disorders—the families grappling within this unfamiliar territory to save their loved ones—and the health care providers who are helping to create the pathways to healing.
Becky has given a platform to families to share their triumphs and tragedies and, most important, the lessons they have learned as they care for loved ones with eating disorders. Perhaps most helpful is the distilled advice passed on by these brave "unwilling experts"—practical advice about how to love the sick child while hating and fighting the illness that causes so much havoc, how to do damage control when family or friends make unhelpful or triggering comments, how to deal with the myriad appointments, paperwork and insurers, while at the same time caring for yourself, the care-giver who is also traumatized by the experience.
These peeks through the windows and behind the doors of families dealing with eating disorders will help other families know they are not alone in their confusion and frustration, and will help health care providers understand what happens within the homes and lives of their patients and their families."
–Katja Rowell, MD, Founder of Family Feeding Dynamics
"This is excellent! You have inspired me with your passion and dedication to this cause. Keep up the good work!" ~ Parent
"Just Tell Her To Stop will help enormously in exposing and exterminating this manipulative, isolating, and dangerous illness.
In my recovery journey, a constant image spurred me on—that of extracting the eating disorder from the darkness of my mind. The families in this book write from the heart, bravely and candidly exposing the reality of eating disorders. Their words are a bright light shining, a beacon, a pathway, for anyone caught up in an eating disorder."
June Alexander, Australia - Author of My Kid Is Back: Empowering Parents to Beat Anorexia Nervosa (collaboration with Daniel Le Grange) 2010; A Girl Called Tim: Escape from anEating Disorder Hell (memoir) 2011; and A Collaborative Approach to Eating Disorders (co-editor Janet Treasure) 2011. Member: ANZAED, AED Patient-Carer Task Force Committee www.junealexander.com
"You fought and won to get your traumatized brain back, then fought to win your joy back and have bravely marched out of the dark forest of eating disorder heart break. Then, armed with knowledge, experience and hindsight, you turned around and went right back in, to bring the rest of the families lost in the darkness out into the sunshine again. I'm so proud of you. If we, as your family had this book to guide us back when you were lost in the forest, we would have been more equipped to walk with you through the nightmare." - Your Sister, Karen
I think you have done a great job of telling families' personal stories and giving them a voice, and hearing those stories can provide much encouragement and comfort to friends and families finding themselves in the role of supporting a loved one with an eating disorder.
Melinda Parisi, Ph.D., ProgramDirector - Eating Disorders Program University MedicalCenter at Princeton
"Becky Henry's book tells it like it is for parents whose child has an eating disorder. Now I have a book that I can recommend to parents by a parent who has been there." I enthusiastically endorse this book.
Marcia Herrin, EdD, MPH, RD, LD - Herrin Nutrition Services, 367 State Route 120, Unit B-8 Lebanon, NH 03766
The Parent's Guide to Eating Disorders (Gurze Press, 2007)
Nutrition Counseling in the Treatment of Eating Disorders (Brunner-Routledge, 2002)
"I have worked with many brave, compassionate, and wise parents, and find their commitment to helping their child recover from an eating disorder has been both humbling and inspiring to witness. After many years of feeling alone, these parents now have the supportof the clinical community and other parents, such as yourself, as they accompany their child on the road to recovery. I will recommend your book among the resources that parents and families might turn to for information, along with organizations like NEDA, FEAST, AED, and foundations such as the Anna Westin Foundation. Congratulations on this tremendous accomplishment. I am most grateful to have it as a resource."
Bethany Helfman, Psy.D. - Bloomfield Hills, MI
"Living with an eating disorder is extremely challenging and Becky Henry has found the perfect way to share beautifully written family and patient stories. Each contributor shares a list of recovery TIPS at the end of their story, and they contain particularly valuable "positive living" information. Just Tell Her to Stop is already a classic in the field of eating disorder treatment and recovery. Great value for both families and anyone who works in the eating disorders field."
Janet Nestor, MA, LPC, DCEP - Author of the mindfulness handbook, Pathways to Wholeness
Holistic Mental Health Therapist, Center of Well-Being, Winston-Salem, NC www.mindfulpathways.com
"Understanding eating disorders and their impact on individuals, families, and society is critical. Becky Henry provides stories into the heart of those affected by this disorder so that no one has to feel alone. The author in the sharing of diverse family stories as well as her own provides validation, support, practical tips, and guidance which will truly help those in need. This is a really important book."
Dena Cabrera, PsyD, Remuda Ranch Programs for Eating and Anxiety Disorders, Wickenburg, AZ 85390 www.remudaranch.com
With "Just Tell Her to Stop", Becky Henry has contributed a much-needed resource for those who truly stand on the front lines of the eating disorders recovery battle - the parents and families of a sufferer. Aparent-turned-activist herself, Ms. Henry has experienced first hand the power and value of having access to a parent support network. "Just Tell Her to Stop"takes aim at popular myths that parents cause eating disorders, and deliberately chooses a different approach – to educate and support families so that they can then better support the sufferers in their lives as well.
ShannonCutts, founder of MentorCONNECT and author of "Beating Ana: How to Outsmart Your Eating Disorder and Take Your Life Back" www.mentorconnect-ed.org
"Becky, Just wanted to tell you that your book is WONDERFUL!!!! While on our vacation my husband was not happy about me reading the book because he kept saying that we are going to have fun and not even talk about our daughter, but as I read I would read him
passages and he was also intrigued. By the time I finished the book I was in a much better place and we had a wonderful time on our vacation. My husband is now in the process of reading the book and my sons want to read it too along with our daughter-in-law. I am also going to order another copy to give to my daughter's therapist for her library to lend to other parents. It helps to know that there are others out there that have gotten through this. Even though our daughter continues to have no contact with her family I hold on to the HOPE that one day she will seek treatment and will contact us. Thanks so much for giving me back happiness." ~ Parent
I finished your book about a week ago. It was a beautiful book you should be VERY proud of. I can't think of anything I would recommend you do different. It was AMAZING!!!! I learned a lot about a horrible disease, but I took away a feeling of hope that it truly is possible to overcome it, and with the help of others, it is possible to live through the nightmare. I thought you did an excellent job of educating, inspiring and giving hope. What a beautiful book!!!! You are an inspiration to all of us "wanna be" authors!!! ~ Tammy Laurent, Writer, Owner: Edward Jones Investments
2013 - Los Angeles Book Festival - Just Tell Her to Stop won Honorable Mention in the General Non-Fiction category.
2011 Independent Publisher Book Award (IPPY) - Just Tell Her to Stop won in the National Category for Mental Health/Psychology May 23, 2011 Awards Ceremony in NYC. :
- 12-1-15 "Eating your way through the Holidays: What to look for when working with Eating Disorders" Rivermend Health Lunch and Learn, Bonefish, St. Louis Park MN
- 11- 2015 Caregiver Retreat - Naples, FL
- 11-27-15 "March Against ED" Sharing the Parent Experience of Long-term Eating Disorders and Advocacy.
- 10-15-15 " HOPE: Shift Your Perspective on Supporting Those with Eating Disorders and Their Families" St. Louis Co. HHS Conference, Duluth, MN (Presented with Thea Sheldon, CPCC) ?
- 2-21-15 “The Family Experience of Eating Disorders” Eating Disorder Coalition of Iowa Conference, Des Moines, IA
- 2-11-15 “A Former Patient and a Parent Share Perspectives on Eating Disorders” University of St. Thomas, EDAW, St. Paul, MN
- 12-2014 - Caregiver Retreat - San Diego, CA
- 2-1-14 “From Hopeless and Fearful, to Empowered Caregiver”, F.E.A.S.T. 3rd Annual Eating Disorders Conference in Dallas, TX
- May 2013 “Featured at Author evening” At Home With Eating Disorders Conference, Brisbane, Australia
- 10-22-12 "Preparing for Surgery. Does Weight Matter?" Twin Cities Orthopedics CEU's offered
- 10/13/12 - Writers Rock! Workshop - Century College, St. Paul, MN - Self-Publishing Panel
- 9/15/12 - The Loft Literary Center, Minneapolis, MN. Panel on Self-publishing and book marketing.
- 2/23/12 - NEDAW event at The Emily Program Foundation "Art and Eating Disorders" Open Mic night.
- 11/17/11 - "Eating Disorders and Your Teen" - Moms of Teens Group - Christ Presbyterian Church, Edina, MN
- 11/17&18/11 - The Lowdown on Eating Disorders From the Trenches Grand Rapids, MN Public Library 7pm & Itasca Community College12pm Both open to the public.
- 11/3/11 - Moderator of Q & A with Dr. James Lock, Stanford Univ. at F.E.A.S.T. Symposium, Alexandria, VA
- 1/16/10, Minneapolis, MN” Moving the Weight Paradigm from Dread and Failure to Balance and Health" - Promoting Healthy Body Image, Eating, Fitness, and Weight, CEU Program with Kathy Kater, LICSW, Michele Gorman, MS, RD, LD, Katja Rowell, MD”
- 10/11&12/11 The Lowdown on Eating Disorders From the Trenches.-Timberline Knolls Treatment Center - Lemont, IL
- 8/22/11 - Common Good Books & The Emily Program Foundation host, "Joy and Hope" - A discussion with Kathleen MacDonald of the Eating Disorders Coalition (EDC) Washington, DC & Becky Henry of Hope Network" Moderated by Kitty Westin.
- 7/12/11 - Speaker on the Family Experience - The Emily Program Foundation Recovery Night
- 2/13/11 -"Including Families in the Treatment of Eating Disorders-What difference does it make?" Featured Speaker - Eating Disorder Network of Maryland 5th Annual Eating Disorder Awareness Event
Becky Henry’s story of how she learned first-hand about eating disorders with an experience with her 14 year old daughter.
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Just wanted to drop you a note to thank you for all your help and support. Your guidance and wisdom was invaluable during one of the toughest times of my life. You always listened to me and then made sure I had a goal each week to help keep myself sane through all the trials of having a child with anorexia. Your knowledge and network of information was very helpful. I could not have gotten through it without you." ~ Toni C.
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